Gay Marriage Redux 2009-2023

 I wrote this blog in 2009. Seems like a lifetime ago! There are few things I agree with in my blogs from that era of my life. But this one, I'm kind of proud of. I wanted to re-post it here in it's original form. Full of grammatical errors, punctuation and run on's. Unlike most of my blogs, this one is a time capsule that I think aged very well. 

I don't see what the big deal is here...

Obviously, Im straight, so Im not trying to advocate for something that personally affects or benefits me. Whether there is gay marriage or not in this world won't change my life. But, it will change someone else's, at no cost to me and my beliefs.

I think people who oppose this should actually ask themselves why they care so much if 2 gay people want to get married? Why are they so opposed to that, but not opposed to the 1 in 2 couples getting divorces? If you can get divorced this easily as everyone does these days, where is the sacredness in this institution that critics are trying to protect? The truth is, divorce used to be embarrassing. Now it is as common as changing jobs every 5 years.

If people are getting divorced in record numbers, and the average wedding is about 25K-35K for a one-day party, what does this really say about the sacredness of the institution of marriage? The truth is, that marriage is a big business. They offer the Bride the chance to be a princess for a day, and the groom to be the next in line to the centre of attention and ego's pay for this. If you sat down with a financial planner to make your marriage work from the very start, and you had 2 options of spending this money on a day wedding, or putting that money into a house that MADE money, Im sure there would be a clean sweep in opinions that weddings are a bad choice.

Yet, why do we all get married this way? The answer is custom. Its always been this way, and its usually the parents who pay for it and expect a reception that they approve of. You see, everyone really gets their fingers into the process and it usually pales in comparison to what the Princess thought this day would be like. Its usually stressful and far from the joy of what the wedding SHOULD be.

Anyway, Im getting off-topic here. My point is about gay marriage. Just like civil rights have been given to women, blacks, minorities, and others in our free society, so it must be given to gays. I think it will only be a matter of time until this happens. I think the equivilent to this is saying that you still want to oppose blacks' civil rights back in the 60's. It is unthinkable now that because somebody who is born with skin that isn't white, that they doesn't deserve the same rights in a "free" country. So what is the difference with this?

Now, I know what the critics are going to say because I was once one of them. You're going to say that it is written in the Bible that homosexuality is a sin. Or that physiologically, it is not natural for 2 members of the same sex to be together. I agree with this to a certain degree... But when it comes down to it, who am I to stand in the way of someone else's freedom of choice because its not something that I agree with? Just because you don't like someone's CHOICE of freedom doesn't mean that it doesn't have its place to exist in our society. Thats what freedom really is!! Its not POTENTIAL Freedom, its pure freedom.

But mostly, I hope that someday people will understand that being gay is the genetic pre-disposition of one's body. It is no more of a choice than it is to say what type of straight person that you find attractive. Everyone has certain attractions, and those who are gay don't choose the hard road in life because its "cool". They choose it because they are listening to their hearts. Which is something that us straight people could really learn from...