Plus Sized Model Tara Lynn
I was reading a posting on facebook about an overweight woman comparing being a whale to being a dolphin. I will attach the story line here for your frame of reference.
After reading the blog, I was amazed at all the people who "liked" or commented on it in a favourable manner. I know that weight bears the heavy burden of powerful issues in a person's life like guilt, shame, vanity, and other disempowering emotions. What struck me (outside of the fact that I was actually spending time reading about a fictitious comparison between being a whale or a mermaid) was the justification that ensued afterwards about being overweight.
It was written very well, and pulled on many heartstrings that people could identify with. Yet in the end, it did nothing to persuade me that any excuse or reason is acceptable to WANT to be ok with being overweight. You simply can't convince me that every person who looks at themselves in the mirror 100 times a day WANTS to be ok with being overweight.
So they create an avenue to gather support for their way of being and collect people around them who want to support them in this way of being, so they can feel better about something that deep down they KNOW isn't empowering them.
And this isn't just about being overweight.
We can use a million things that we are uninspired about in our lives. Let's use the infamous money issue. Those of us who don't have a lot of money, don't have it for a reason. It's the same excuse that these people use who are overweight. They simply aren't committed to a way of being which is healthy, period. -It's simply not important to them because if it was, they would have the body or the bank account that they wanted. If it's important to you, you will have it. If you think it's important and you don't have it, it's because you don't have a powerful enough reason or motivating factor that will inspire you to get what it is you want.
So, in the lack of having what we want, we don't want to be reminded or have someone throw something in our face about what other people have that they work hard for, and don't. We get instantly defensive about our stance and even though we know that it's not the way we "Should" be being, we ignore it and make up excuses.
Rich people work really hard because money is very important to them. People who work out to have a healthy body work really hard at it. Each of these people sacrifice things in their lives because being this certain way is important to them.
And that's why you see the rich be resented, and skinny girls be looked down at. We look down at the these people because we know it's in our power to be that way, yet we are not committed to a way of being that will give it to us, so we resent them because they are. We make up stories about what they have to sacrifice in life to have that and relay it back in our personal life of how we could never justify taking away time for such things. We commiserate with others of like belief system when all it does is one thing:
-Keeps us uninspired and lacking the motivation to take action.
We actually take that power away from ourselves by this way of thinking. -And until we change that thought process, we will always have what we already have.