Thursday, November 6, 2014
Nice Guys. Why They Don't Win
Whenever I hear a man say, "Nice guys never win" I always think, "No, nice guys DO win. Boring guys don't win."
In my workings with relationships, I have come to a certainty that most people are attracted to 2 traits in particular. These are inter-changable inside of the sexes.
They are Humour and Confidence.
You show me a "nice guy" who is funny and confident, and I will show you a man who is having no complaints that "nice guys finish last."
The only nice guys who finish last do so because they are lacking the funny and confident, or they are attempting to attract someone who isn't a fit for them. These are pretty easy signs to see that they could move on to someone who is a better fit for them. Yet they seem to want to be the victim in declaring that "Nice Guys Finish Last" to absolve themselves of the result, and lay blame on others.
It's much easier to blame someone else than look at why you're not being successful in attracting a partner. Success leaves clues, but so does Failure.
I'd like to think that all women appreciate men who are genuinely nice. However, nobody likes boring. If you're nice, but you're boring or uninteresting, chances are you will finish last.
But nice guys don't finish last, ever...