I have never understood how it makes any sense that there is a saying that says, "It takes a big man to admit when he's wrong"
I never understood this...
If you were wrong, it wasn't a crime. It wasn't a smack in the face, it just meant that you weren't right. I mean, I was wrong all the time in my life, so I don't know if that just made it NORMAL for me to be wrong all the time. You might say I was used to it.
I had a smart-ass “know it all” in my class as a kid, and I think she was wrong about 3 times a year. It was like, the teacher would ask a question, and she would always answer correctly. It was like a magic trick. This chick should've called the races for the horse races. -She would always win!!
As opposed to me, who MAYBE was right about 50% of the time. I was used to being wrong and was always a hit-or-miss kinda guy. But when she was wrong the whole 3 times a year, you had to see the snit on her face. It was like she had just been slapped in front of her family at Xmas. She was mad, embarrassed and upset. And often, it was a whole lot of fun to tease her about it. (I know, kids can be so mean...)
But the thing is, she would get so defensive about being wrong, that she would actually try to defend herself, and her answer.
So I guess I learned from a young age how stupid it was to me that you would defend something that was wrong. It was moving away from the correct path of learning, as opposed to defending it and pursuing the path of correction and betterment.
Now, when you add family, love, race, religion and other very strong powerful defence mechanisms, it almost enables that person to be defensive. Even if the person you are defending doesn't need or want to be defended, it happens anyway.
But here's the thing... Being wrong is not something to take personally. It is a growth trait that enables you to learn. It doesn't take a bigger man to admit when he is wrong, it only takes a PROACTIVE man to admit when he is wrong.
If I am wrong, you will always hear me admit it right away. I try not to defend my mistake and I often laugh at it. And whether it is a family member, friend, or whomever I like, I do not defend their actions if they are wrong. If they are wrong, I would side with my sworn enemy than side with something or something that is wrong. Period.
I'm the kind of guy that calls a spade a spade, and doesn't apologize that it's black. Stop being stupid and ignorant and just admit when you are wrong and stop defending stupidity. -It will bring objectivity and understanding to your life like you have never known...