Monday, January 25, 2010
Nagging Will Get you Nowhere fast
This week is going to be a fairly controversial set of blogs. Of course, I am just one man stating his opinion on what makes me lose attraction to the member of the opposite sex. BUT, in telling you these things, I fear that most women are going to take this personally as an attack on them; when in reality, I don't know who you are.
Saying this in a blog means that you can't take this personally, as if I were telling this to your face. But I will let you in on 5 types of behaviour this week which all men could agree that will take your ass out of the game, and you won't even know it. So, if you recognize any of these traits, LOSE THEM IMMEDIATELY, or start looking for another man because your time is running out...
The trait I want to talk about today is something that I can't understand. It simply floors me that it rears its ugly head, and yet women still do not get that it is a first class ticket to Dumpsville- Population: YOU
Nagging. -Nagging is the best way to lose a guy that you really like. It will make the most beautiful woman turn into the ugliest person you can imagine. If you like to nag, I promise you that you are on a one way ticket to getting dumped. Just Google the word "Nagging" and you will see what I mean...
There is NOTHING worse than a woman who nags. -Period.
Every guy will tell you that this is the most dreaded activity that women love to do. The thing that I don't understand is that I would think that everyone knows that they in turn, do not like to be nagged. So why treat someone the way you hate to be treated?
Nobody likes to be nagged. And you can call it whatever you like, such as "reminded", or "trained" or whatever else, but when it comes down to it, we as men will tolerate it for a while hoping that you wise up and understand that you are being stupid before correcting yourself. But in most cases, it never happens. And this isn't just your fault; we are partly to blame as well. When you nag us, we should tell you that we won't be spoken to in such a demeaning manner immediately and tell you not to repeat it again. You wouldn't tolerate it from us if we constantly reminded you of how out of shape you were, or any other fault that you possess, so why would we tolerate yours?
The thing is, we have a mother. She is the only woman who is allowed to nag us. So the job is taken, please apply somewhere else. Our mothers have earned the right to bitch slap us, because they have gone through hell and back to raise us -And when it comes down to it, they will always have a love for us that will always be nothing short of unconditional. So, you see how you can't compete here, right?
So do yourself a favour: stop nagging, and CONTROL your emotions. If we constantly couldn't control our emotions and freaked out when we didn't get our way, it would end the same for us. So the same rules apply.
Now, I'm not saying that we as men don't have our problems and issues as well, but the one thing we can all agree on, is that men simply don't nag. We just don't do it! And to tell you the truth, I would LOVE it if someone would just explain to me WHY WOMEN LOVE TO NAG?
So please enlighten me.
And don't pull "Holier than thou" with me, and say that you don't nag... C’mon, be realistic and remember a time that you did and explain what overtakes a woman to want to take herself out of the game of attraction by rearing an ugly head such as being naggy?
So do yourself a favour, don't nag us.
Oh, I can already hear it... "Oh but Chuck, how do we get you to do the things that we want you to do then?"
I think we all know that the answer is not nagging, right. So stop reminding us.
We're not stupid, we're just communicating to you that your nagging won't win. We are too stubborn as men to let you get your way if you nag us. And worse, then we will get downright childish about it. We as men, have this thing called a Fraile Male Ego, and it won't tolerate being talked down to.
"So, if nagging won't work, what will?" you ask again.
Here's a tip. And it's easy and simple to do.
Funny concept, isn't it? When you ask us if you look cute, or "how do I look?" you want to be complimented right? -We are no different. In fact, we are worse. At least you ask, wheras to us, it sounds too unmasculine for us to do so. So we never do, and expect you to read our mind and pay us a compliment. Twisted game, I know...
So thank us for doing nice things for you on a random, consistent basis. Pay us the compliment that when we do something nice for you, that you appreciate it. If you earnestly and honestly do this, I promise you that there isn't a man out there who wouldn't move heaven and earth to do whatever it is he can for you when you asked him. However, if he thinks he is being taken advantage of, or that you are too needy and expect these things routinely, he will never WANT to do these things for you.
But who am I to talk like this? I'm just one guy, with his own opinion, but in my opinion of being a guy and having talked to a lot of guys about this, I know 2 things...
1) We don't like being nagged.
2) An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
But you try it your way and see how it works out for you. Just don't let us hear you complain like all these women on The Bachelor when they get showed the door....