Wednesday, October 14, 2009

The best way to lose a lot of money...

Well, there is no "Best" way to lose a lot of money. BUT, if you are going to lose it, how would it hurt less? Well, I had the opportunity to experience this.

Before I start, I didn't lose my wallet in a store after just making a big withdrawl, I didn't leave money lying around, I wasn't robbed and somebody didn't wrong me.

I was in the UK visiting a dear friend when I looked at my blackberry in the early morning. Before I had left, I put together a deal that was finalized a day or so before I left. This was one of my most prized deals and I was very happy with the fit and it was one of those deals that you put together which works out so well, that you almost can't think of taking money for it. But in this case, I was going to make an exception and get paid for it ;)

As I looked at my blackberry, I saw that the deal had fallen through and was unexpectedly broken and couldn't be fixed. I had lost a lot of face in this deal that fell through, and although losing the money was going to sting, it was bigger than that.

Reading this made me feel like I had been kicked in the nuts. I literally made me sick to my stomach and my mind whirled with "what went wrong, is this a joke" and all the other things that you ask yourself when something goes wrong.

I looked up in disbelief and the look on my face must've said it all...

"what's wrong Chuckie? Is everything alright?"

I almost answered and told my friend the truth. But then, I became aware of why I was standing in that kitchen in the first place. My dear friend's husband is fighting throat cancer, and I was there to help her out in her time of need. So somehow, telling her that I just lost a truckload of money didn't really seem appropriate.

I can always earn more money, and I have the rest of my life to make more of it. having your health and your family seem to be something that is really most valuable. And suddenly I felt stupid.

"Nothing is wrong, everthing will be ok" I responded back.

Because everything has always turned out ok for me, and has always worked out. Not always the way I wanted it to, but it's always been ok.

You don't necessarily need to have faith in God, or religion, or a saviour. But you do need to have faith in SOMETHING. Something always seems to be the one thing that carried me through tough times and has always allowed me to see the light at the end of the tunnel when the view was bleak.

I asked my friend with throat cancer, "are you bitter, frustrated, sad, any of these?"

"No, He said. I don't have the energy to waste being bitter. I need all the energy I have to be positive and fight this"

How odd...Here I was in perfect health for the time being and I have that extra energy that he doesn't, and I choose to waste it on emotions that cost me energy rather than create it.

So if you ever think life is hard, look at it from another angle. This was the best way I could've lost a lot of money...


  1. I am so glad that you are the type of man that sees what is really important, money makes the world go round but it's certainly not the be all end all that some make it out to be. Our loved ones health and the support their family needs is what is most important and you did the right thing. : )

  2. Nice!

    It's stories like this one that make us take a good hard look at the realities of OTHER peoples lives. I use to be frustrated and angry when stuck in traffic because of an accident...and then it finally hit me, how lucky I was to be sitting there in my car safe and sound ~ being late isn't the worst case scenario!


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